An Update

As I printed the reading list for my upcoming Book Group for the Downtown Oakland Senior Center, I reflected on our beginning as a collaboration between the DOSC and my final post-retirement English Department course at Mills College, “Coming to Age.” What began as monthly in-person sessions between undergraduate Mills students and members of the DOSC transitioned to Zoom sessions due to the Covid pandemic. No longer a collaboration after the end of the spring semester 2020, the DOSC readers decided to continue meetings on Zoom, taking summer and mid-winter breaks between sessions. We discussed 37 books between 2020 and 2021, chosen by me as an extension of my book, The Book of Old Ladies, in which the protagonists are all women over sixty. Currently, the selections are chosen together with members of the group.

I took a break from social media this summer and fall, and I have recently been asked for an update on the books we read in our summer/fall 2022 session. They included short stories, novels, and essays. Here they are:

We enjoyed “Olive Kitteridge” and returned to Elizabeth Strout with “Olive, Again.” The collection of stories follows Olive into her old age and home into assisted living with the lively characterization and detailed sense of small towns in Maine we had earlier enjoyed.

We then reached back to the nineteenth-century portrayals of elderly widows by Sarah Orne Jewett. “The Country of the Pointed Firs” is also set in Maine.

Two short stories by Katherine Mansfield featuring three generations in an Australian setting rewarded us next: “Prelude” and “At the Bay.”

We then read Charlotte Wood’s 2022 novel, “The Weekend,” also set in Australia, in which three elderly women friends meet at the ocean cottage of the deceased friend to clean out her belongings and face their future without their beloved friend, who often was the glue that held them together—also discovering long-held secrets.

Louise Erdrich’s much-celebrated novel, “Love Medicine,” was a tough read. However, her prose is lovely, exposing the anger, desire, and healing power that is love medicine within this first novel in her Native American series.

Ursula Le Guin’s late-in-life collection of essays, “No Spare Time,” was our first non-fiction reading. It brought laughter of recognition in her short essay that gives the book its title and awe for her wisdom, and we determined to include one of her novels in our first 2023 session.

We concluded with Julie Otsuka’s short contemporary novel, “The Swimmers,” written in a “we” voice and moving from an underground community swimming pool to life in an assisted living residence. And we just decided to include one of her earlier historical novels in the next session.

When we first adjusted to Zoom sessions in 2020, we had no idea we would continue in my retirement, using zoom and appreciating the chance to see each other’s unmasked faces on the screen.

Ageist Harm

Stella Fosse’s most recent blog posting, “First Do No Ageist Harm,”  examines the underlying assumptions of a study on brain health in which she participated because she wanted to contribute to research that would help develop treatments for brain disorders.  In her lucid account, she reports that many of the questions came from underlying assumptions she considers ageist–assuming decline, for example. There were no questions about the positive aspects of aging, suggesting there was no financial incentive similar to that of drug companies seeking cures. I had recently revisited Ursula K. Le Guin’s collection of short blog-like pieces written in her eighties and nineties, entitled No Time to Spare in which she begins by referencing a questionnaire she received from Harvard, sent in advance of the sixtieth reunion of her 1951 graduating class. Her response to a question about what she does in her spare time, like the questions Fosse mentions, reveals the underlying ageism of the questions.  I suggest you read all four entries in the opening section, “Going Over Eighty.” I love her response that she has no spare time because her time has always “been occupied by living.”

Next, I plan to follow up on Fosse’s recommendation of Becca Levy’s book,  Breaking the Age Code:  How Your Beliefs About Aging Determine How Long and How Well You Live Like LeGuin, I bristle when someone claims I don’t look my age, sharing her sense that we earned our wrinkles and age spots in over eighty years and we don’t want them to deny our experience of living.